The National Comprehensive Cancer Network (NCCN) has published a new set of guidelines for caregivers of cancer patients. This is the first time such a guide has been published, at least by the NCCN.
The NCCN has other sets of guidelines. The best known is their sets of guidelines for oncologists. It helps them decide things like which treatment is best to try first, which is best to try after relapse, how often a patient should get a scan, and other decisions that are based on current research. It's similar to the guide from the EHA that I wrote about recently.
The NCCN also publishes a series of guides for patients, each one focused on a different type of cancer, including Follicular Lymphoma. The guides are very good, and are written in clear, easy-to-understand language.
So it is fitting that they would put out a guide for caregivers. And it has been absolutely needed. Given how important caregivers are, this kind of basic support is long overdue. Caregivers are often overlooked when we think about the important things in a cancer patient's life.
In my experience, in my own life and when talking with others, a caregiver is as surprised by a diagnosis as a cancer patient is. For most of us, no one prepared us to be a cancer patients. And no one prepares a caregiver to be a caregiver most of the time. Caregivers have no choice but to kind of make it up as they go along. They have to deal with the physical, emotional, and financial changes to a cancer patient's life, while often trying to live their own lives the same way they had before someone else’s diagnosis. It's a lot to deal with.
That's why I think this guide is so important. And it's not just useful for the caregiver of someone who is newly diagnosed. It's great advice for any caregiver, whether they are helping care for someone who was diagnosed a few weeks ago or many years ago. It's always a good time for a caregiver to get support.
The guide is divided up into several sections. The first one is on what caregiving is. That's important. I think lots of care givers don't realize that they are caregivers. Many of them probably think of a caregiver as someone providing support 24 hours a day. But even regularly helping with small tasks makes someone a caregiver.
Another section discusses the basics of cancer -- what cancer is, some typical types of treatments, some typical side effects that cancer patients deal with. This is one of the places that I think makes this guide so valuable. We all have our vision of what cancer is, but we don't always see it from the perspective of a caregiver. So this section is valuable in helping a caregiver understand what is happening and why. I think it would give many caregivers a bigger picture, which is probably very helpful to them.
Probably the best section (in my opinion) is the one that gives advice on making a caregiving plan. As I said, in my experience, most caregivers are dropped into their role without much time to think about it, and without much time after they begin caregiving to step back and think about the best way to handle things. This section gives some very good practical advice on how to care for someone with cancer day-to-day. It also points out something very important -- how caregiving changes depending on your relationship to the patient. Caring for a spouse is different from caring for a parent or grandparent. It's nice to have specific advice based on those relationship differences.
Another important section talks about the role of the caregiver as part of the larger cancer care team. I think that's incredibly important. We often think of our cancer care team as the healthcare professionals that we deal with -- our oncologist or hematologist, our nurses, hospital and doctors office staff members, various technologists, etc. Discussing the caregiver as an important part of this team puts the caregiver on the same level as these healthcare professionals. And that's where caregivers should be. Many caregivers spend much more time with the cancer patient than any of those healthcare professionals ever will. They know the patient best -- sometimes even better than the patient knows themselves. So discussing the caregiver's role on the same level as the oncologist’s is a really nice recognition of how important the caregiver is. And I hope caregivers who read this guide we'll see that, and believe it.
The last two sections give advice for the actual day-to-day care that a caregiver gives. First is how to take care of the patient. I'm guessing that by the time most caregivers read this, they will already have a very good idea of how to take care of the patient. But they may pick up some good advice anyway.
More important is the section on how a caregiver takes care of themselves. If you've ever spoken to a caregiver, had a deep and honest conversation with them, then you know how physically and emotionally exhausting that role can be. Self-care always comes second for the caregiver, in my experience. So some reminders about self-care are very valuable here. Just things like eating right, getting some exercise, trying to find time for yourself. And that's not always easy for a caregiver. Many of them are working a job while also caring. Free time is taken up by caring for the patient. Self-care comes last. There's a good reminder here that it's OK for the caregiver to get help. But that's not always possible. So it's also a good reminder for us if we are able to give someone else’s caregiver a break when we can.
A couple of interesting statistics from the guide. First is that 1in 4 adults in the United States will be a caregiver at some point. And the length of time they act as a caregiver averages about 5.5 years. As cancer treatments become better, and people live longer lives, the need for caregiving has become even more important.
One more point that the guide makes: caregivers aren’t perfect. And they don't need to be. We all have bad days, caregivers included. There are things we simply cannot do. The help that we can give sometimes has to be good enough.
As I have been reading this guide, I have been thinking about my own recent experience. It's been a long time since I needed help that was related to my status as a cancer patient. But I'm dealing with a shoulder injury and recovery from surgery right now, as I write this. My wife has been my chief caregiver for the last few weeks. And even though I'm getting stronger every day and more independent, there is still much that she needs to do for me. I see the time she puts in, not just at helping me with things like putting my socks on my feet and tying my shoes, and driving me to physical therapy or anywhere else I need to go. But she's also taken on a lot of the work that I have often done for us, like cooking meals, dealing with our dog, going to the grocery store, etc. It's frustrating for me to need the help, though she does it without complaint, even though she’s dealing with her own health issues. So I have a very good reminder day-to-day of just how important caregivers are to patients. And I have a good reminder to make sure I say thank you.
If you have a caregiver in your life, I hope you'll show them this guide. If you know other patients, I hope you'll share it with them, so they can share it with the caregivers in their lives. They are such an important part of our care team. And even the small way of supporting them, by sharing a guide that might make their lives just a little bit easier, might be a nice way to say thank you.