A blog about Cancer in general, and Follicular Lymphoma in particular
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
Stress (from Cancer and Other Things)
I saw this on a lymphoma group on Facebook this morning, though it's made the rounds for a few months (and it's usually cited as "source unknown," so I can't give proper credit):
psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to
an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd
be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile
on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I
"If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it
for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my
arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of
water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."
important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!
************************ I know that's easier said than done for lots of people -- maybe most people. But sometimes I think it's easy to worry about what might happen, rather than what it happening. There's a difference between preparing for what comes next and focusing on the worst possible outcome. I've written many times before that, with a wife, three double-digit-aged kids, a full-time job, and an insane dog, I am a very busy man. And I consider myself very lucky to be so busy. I have all of those people and things to care about, and to care about me, and the good health to stay busy enjoying them. I wish all of you the good health and busy-ness to not have time to stand around holding a glass of water. (That story is aimed to two people in particular -- you probably know who you are....)
I was diagnosed with Follicular Lymphoma (Stage 3, Grade 1 &2) in January 2008. I have been writing this blog since then. After my diagnosis, I watched and waited for two years (to the day). I received six rounds of Rituxan in 2010, and I have not needed treatment since.
I like to call myself a Cancer Nerd – I am not a doctor or a cancer researcher, just a patient who wants to understand as much as I can about my disease, and write about what I find, from a patient’s perspective.
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This blog is not intended to be a source of medical advice. I am not a medical doctor, scientist, or cancer researcher. I'm just a Follicular Lymphoma patient who wants to learn more about my condition and provide opinion and information so you might have a more informed conversation with your own doctor, who is the right person to get medical advice from.